My DH and I decided a while back that the only way to keep timed intercourse from taking over our sex life was to separate it from "sex." Mind you, we have been only marginally successful at keeping this separation. But, the one thing we have been firm about is that timed intercourse takes place in a different room of the house than our bedroom. That way, spontaneous sex hopefully doesn't remind us of timed sex.
So, there's a futon set up in the spare room. It's been out for two years, now. Even after I got pregnant, we kept it out waiting to get out of the first trimester afraid to jinx it. But, eventually, we plan on putting it away.
When my DH starts to realize that it's been a week or two since we last used that futon, he asks me, "When will we know what's happening with the futon?"
When a cycle fails, I tell him, "Keep the futon out, honey."
As of today the futon stays out for at least another month.
On to the next...
(If anyone I know ever walks up to me and asks me anything about a futon I think I'll pass out from embarrassment.)
:( I'm sorry this wasn't your cycle, ladybug. I love the euphemisms we have for getting down to business. Often (and tell me how sexy this one is), N will suggest we get cozy by asking if I want to "make fluffy bunnies." Which is absolutely ridiculous. Next month, my dear. Sending hugs.
ReplyDeleteOh crap! I was hoping you could put the futon away!!!
ReplyDeleteI do think it's a very good idea to do your baby-making business in a different room... Very smart!
Sorry about this cycle - onto the next!
:-( I'm sorry that this wasn't the cycle. I love that you guys have a separate room for baby makin' sex, what a good idea.
ReplyDeletehugs.
I'm sorry that you are on to the next cycle, but here's to hoping it's the last one in which you'll require the futon's assistance.
ReplyDeletethat's actually a great idea! I should try that, now that we are through with IVFs.
ReplyDeleteBut... sorry to hear about the BFN.
Hugs.
I am sorry to hear the futon has to continue to be in the room. Here's hoping the futon will go in storage in 2011! Thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteDamn. Sorry about the futon.
ReplyDeleteI do love that idea. 2011, baby, its gonna be our year.
xox.
Damn futon - I want it to go into a dark dusty corner of your house never to be seen again. But that's an awesome idea and am impressed with your ingenuity.
ReplyDeleteOnward and upward.
I hope that futon gets put away really soon! Sorry hon {{{HUGS}}}
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry the futon is staying out for another month. :(
ReplyDeleteAww, I'm sorry you have to keep it out. But I have to say, I think the idea of a separate place for BD is great! Here's to futon retirement next year!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about this cycle! I have to say though that it's a brilliant idea to separate timed BD with sex!
ReplyDeleteit's rubbish isn't it? how ttc has taken over sex and turned it into a "crucial time" and "baby making sex" and "keep the futon out" -- i hate, hate, hate it!
ReplyDeleteit's a bummer that the stupid futon is there for another month. like we need anymore reminders of how long this is taking. but let's hope that it's life out on show is nearing to an end. i'm starting to believe in those miracles everyday that soon it will be our time to grow and glow.
right, now onto the RE appointment! :)
That's a good idea but it kind of cracks me up thinking of that BD futon just hanging out there--hope you never have to use it as a guest bed! ;) Also, sorry it has to stay out for another month :(
ReplyDeleteYou're making me look at my futon a whole different way : ) I'm so sorry about AF. Hearing about your futon makes me kind of happy - in the packet we got from the fertility clinic they included that suggestion to keep "work" sex separate from "play" sex. I never really understood the theory, so it's really cool to me to see how it works for you guys. I'm so sorry your futon isn't closed for business yet. I'm rooting for you hard (and my futon now reminds me of you). <3
ReplyDeleteWhat an interesting perspective on timed intercourse. I think trying something like that could have helped us if we'd though of it two years ago :)
ReplyDeleteHuh. I hadn't thought of a futon room, but I like it! I think my husband is just enjoying how much more amorous I am these days.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, new cycle, new beginnings! I hope you can burn the futon, soon. If not, maybe you could try a kitchen counter, study desk, or in the car approach just to spice it up ? ;)
I'm so sorry that the futon is staying out! When I lived in Virginia we had a separate baby makin' bedroom too. Then when we moved to PA we only had one bedroom so we had to use the same one. I thought we were the only people that did that!
ReplyDeleteI hope that futon gets put away really soon!
Brilliant idea, sorry its not workin so far. On a positive note. You got your cycle now so that means in two weeks (if your cycle is sorta typical) you can conceive a Christmas miracle! I'm praying for you!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry sweets! I hope the futon goes on permanent hiatus soon....
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry the futon has to stay out :(
ReplyDeleteThat being said I think you have the right idea there, to have a seperate spot for baby-making.
Noooooo way we are cycling again, Twinnie:( HOPEFULLY, this will be our last for a very long time!
ReplyDeleteMuch love your ways ♥
I meant cycling ... TOGETHER.
ReplyDeleteSorry it wasn't this cycle :(
ReplyDeleteThe futon code is great though. Maybe we should try that if we actually have a spare bedroom in our next flat...