Remember when you blushed when talking about "semen?"
Remember when you didn't feel the need to tell casual acquaintances the details of your cycle?
I remember when I first joined a TTC board and I thought "OMG, I will never post details about what days my DH and I do....well... you know." I'm generally quite reluctant to discuss personal things (I'm a bit of a prude that way), so getting to the point where I'll go on about "timed intercourse" with the best of them was a big step. I'll gladly share our BD'ing patterns and sperm counts. (I still blush a little...but just a little...) Now I'll talk about every part of my cycle like I'm giving out a recipe for a favorite dish.
The problem -- I can't seem to disconnect blogging and TTC-board comments from the real world! This came to a head when my DH and I were talking with our boss the other day. I kept having to hold my tongue to keep from telling him way too much information about what our IVF process involves! It's a medical thing, right? And, we're all scientists! So, of course I want to talk about the specifics. And, there's something about finally being able to talk about it with someone IRL that makes me want to just jabber on about the entire process. And, of course, it's complicated by the fact that our boss was a good friend before he was our boss. But, seriously, I do not really want to be sharing the specifics of when I'm expecting AF with my boss!!!!
Things that were, in retrospect, a little too much sharing:
- My DH said "well, it all depends on Rebecca's cycle" and I just nodded and then said "well, but they can control that somewhat." Do I really want my boss talking about my cycle?
- My DH said that he was going to be out of town during the most "convenient" time for us to do IVF (if we happened to have any choice) and I said "well, we don't really need you there!" My boss laughed and said "no, you really don't!" Do I really want my boss visualizing this?! He did IUI himself several years ago, so he obviously does know what we meant. But, really?
Oh this is hysterical. Someone at work guessed that I was doing fertility treatments - turns out the person who used to do my job did treatments and had twins, so she quit. Anyway, when the person who works FOR me asked me point blank if I was doing treatments, I said yes. And then I proceeded to explain to her about the IUI process - I think the words cup, speculum and catheter came out of my mouth - can't really remember, it was all a blur. She seemed slightly interested, but seriously, should have probably kept it to myself...
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way though, I used to giggle at words like semen, and now I use all kinds of medical terms without even a blush... I call it progress. :)
This post made me giggle =) Pitty the fool who has asked me a single question about the IVF process and left a 1/2 hour later with WAY too many details!
ReplyDeleteOMG I've SO been there! I'm such an over-sharer so I totally get it! That's partly where Mavis came from. My husband and his boss came up with the term "Project Mavis" so that DH could let him know when we had an IVF appointment. DH would tell his boss he was going to be late or had to leave early for a Project Mavis appointment.
ReplyDeleteomg, this is hilarious and mortifying all at the same time. i think my boss would have stabbed his own eye out with a pen, fork, or whatever else was handy, if he had to partake in such a conversation. i'd probably intentionally passout to change the conversation as well.
ReplyDeleteglad you can laugh at this :o)
TTC things almost pop out of my mouth in real life all the time now - even to people who have no idea I am doing IVF. I seriously have to bite my tongue sometimes, so this one had me cracking up because I have so been there!
ReplyDeleteOh, I'm so glad to hear that other people feel this same way! I agree, I need a filter when I'm talking about all this. I was giving myself a hard time over the weekend for telling a friend (who is really my sister's best friend) WAY too much. The poor thing just nodded and said, "it's probably good for you to get this all out." Little did she know that I could have said oh so much more!
ReplyDeleteToo funny! You are not alone. I really do have to hold my tongue sometimes. My poor husband gets SO embarrassed when I start rattling off details about sperm count and motility. It's awful. But he's found himself doing the exact same thing--getting really detailed about the process to his co-workers who get curious and ask questions. We have all been there, but it's great to laugh about it.
ReplyDeleteHilarious!! I also find things coming out of my mouth that have no business out in the world at large. Nothing you said was all that bad so I wouldn't worry too much about it!
ReplyDeleteHaha! sometimes, I am also afraid my friends have had more than enough heard about the activities in and around my whohohooo, LMAO:)
ReplyDeleteThis is so me. I just talk about whatever these days because, hey, I put it on my blog and talk in various communities about it. No, Holly, some people don't want to know all the intimate details of your life. At least your boss was a good sport about it!
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