Step one done! DH read the packet! It didn't make him freak out -- he was eerily calm. (Again, isn't it a good thing one of us can stay that way?)
He called the new RE's and it looks like the earliest we'll probably be able to get in is the end of May and then we'll be 1-3 months from cycling. That's about what I expected. And, a few more med-free cycles is probably a good thing for my mental health.
I mean, med-free, my CD9 freak out wasn't nearly as bad as it usually is... OK, it sort of was, but I think that was due to the giant packet of doom more than anything else.
We met with our "boss" this afternoon to let him know about the potential time off I'll be needing as we forge into IVF-land. It was our first "official" meeting to let him know what was going on, but he already knew for the most part -- he's my DH's close friend and the only person in town that he's actually shared our IF-issues with. He and his wife went through secondary IF several years ago, so he's definitely sympathetic. Anyway, my DH convinced me that it was a good idea to talk to him in an official way. There's a chance that my department chair might start adding more classes/students to my schedule next semester and we need to make sure they're aware that I might have to randomly disappear for a few weeks in the middle of the summer or semester.
It's very hard for me to accept that it's OK for me to disappear for this. My DH keeps having to remind me that this is a medical problem and, if we had any other medical problem, I'd have to take off and the school would just have to deal with it. I know that's true and I'm working on it.
I know that the school secretary is now probably convinced that we're pregnant. Usually the only time that married couples from different departments make an appointment to see the dean together is when they're letting him know that they'll need maternity leave... I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to that day!
In the meantime, it's CD11 and time to get started on some natural TTC'ing.
It's so hard to ask for time off for this, even though I know we shouldn't feel guilty. I think it's more the fear of being judged for me...
ReplyDeleteI hope the time off from cycling is beneficial for you...Mentally and physically...
I am glad you had a chance to talk to your boss. I little more support will only help the process, so you won't need to worry that much about all the timing issues and that may help to be relaxed about everything.
ReplyDeleteYay! for DH to have the have read the packet! we still yet to achieve that;)
I hope the time off meds will help you re-energize and get ready for the ride! May is almost here:) Yay!
Having that "sit down" with your boss and asking him for time off had to be nervewracking, but I am so glad you did it, and it sounds like he has been very thoughtful and supportive. That's the best situation you could have hoped for!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad DH read the packet, and you are right--some time off from medicated cycles can't be anything but wonderful for both your mind and your body. May will be here before you know it, but for now have fun with the "natural" way. :)
SOunds like you made some great forward progress! I hope that the time off from meds treats you well -- I think it is always wonderful to do that if you can!
ReplyDeleteYay for DH reading the packet and for you guys talking to your boss!! I hope the med free time helps! May will be here before you know it.... Enjoy that natural TTCing!! ;)
ReplyDeleteDon't feel guilty about taking time off, life happens & it is ok! Glad your hubby made it through th packet. A good friend of mine works for an RE and she has told me how overwhelming the packet can be.
ReplyDeletePerhaps we will end up being IVF buddies in the summer, it would be great to have someone to "experience" it with. Enjoy your time off, relax and enjoy life :)
Wow - I've never actually thought of it being a medical problem that you need time off from work to deal with it. Thanks to your DH for the reminder for me as well - I needed that!
ReplyDeleteHere's to that natural TTC - wouldn't it be fabulous if you didn't have to do IVF at all??? :) We can all dream... :)
That's great that your DH read the packet and was able to stay calm. It's a lot to take in! Nice that he also called the new clinic and got some timeline ideas. At least now you can enjoy some mental health cycles until things get ramped up.
ReplyDeleteHappy the talk with your boss went well. It's always best when everyone can be on the same page. Sorry you're having some guilt about missing work but your DH is right, it's a medical issue. Hopefully you'll have been able to accept the idea by the time comes.
Having to have IVF sucks but getting ramped up for the process is actually pretty exciting =) I'm sending you TONS of GL!!!