The only thing better than the last day of school is the last day of summer school!! Woohoo!! Bunches of grading left but no more classes for a few weeks. So glad. I declare today officially the end of the worst summer of my life. Time to move on. (Oh, and, Kelly, I teach chemistry.)
And, thank you all so much for your support over the past day or so. I feel better knowing that others would feel abandoned, too, and agree that this is ridiculous. I thought I was overreacting. (And, thank you, Oak, you're right -- we're definitely not alone. Made me cry just reading that.) I think I was trying to be a "good patient" and trust the doctor without realizing that I need to be my own advocate. If I had talked to the nurse on the phone instead of her leaving a message, I would have told her that 6 months was nuts. After I started thinking about it, I remember that my RE has a tendency to do this and has never been as aggressive as I'd like to be. When I had the hysteroscopy and she opened up the right tube, while I was still drugged she said she considers any new "event" a restart and that we should try for 6 months and see what happens. We weren't happy with that and she was supportive of us moving back to IUIs again.
Now, obviously, I got pregnant within 6 months of that (and O'd on the right side that cycle), so she's right -- it could happen. But, I guess as we start to approach two years of this I'm feeling a little impatient. And, I feel like opening one tube when the other was open all along doesn't really explain why it took 20 months to happen the first time. I know for a fact I O'd on the left quite a bit. When I read about how aggressive some other RE's are, I get incredibly jealous. I want to work with someone who wants this for me as much as I do. I don't get the feeling my RE takes my case particularly seriously. she often makes me feel stupid that I'm even asking for help. I like one of the other doctors at her practice, but switching doctors within the practice kind of skeeves me out -- I'm not really good with breaking up with doctors as it is. There is one other RE's office in the town, I believe, but I don't know much about them. Any other option is at least 3 hours from here (as opposed to the 90 minutes we already have to go).
I do plan on calling the RE and chatting with her about it. And telling her that her plans are not our plans. We plan to try for maybe 3months on our own. I think I'll wait until I get out of this AF-weepy state, though.
Although, maybe crying on the phone would make my point!
Celebratory end-of-summer marshmallow roast tonight with the students and then tomorrow a quick trip to IA to see family and then send my DH off to Canada for a conference. He's gone until next Wednesday. I'm planning on grading and relaxing and doing not much of anything for a while.
Relaxing sounds like a good plan, and I am glad you get a break for a while. And a talk with your RE sounds like a magnificent idea!
ReplyDeleteI had to push my RE (well, usually her nurse) to be more aggressive too. After a while it just get so frustrating not seeing any progress. I think you've got a good plan in place and hope she sees your side as well!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the relaxation!! Hope the grading goes quickly. What color pen are you planning to use??? :)
Crying on the phone to her would totally make your point. But, you're right, you might want to wait for the weepiness to subside:)
ReplyDeleteSo, I think 3 months sounds about right to try on your own. Of course, I'm hoping (and I bet you are, too), that you won't have to go back to the RE at all! Fingers crossed!
I'm glad you are feeling better, and I completely support your decision to talk to your RE and tell her how you feel. We tend to think of REs as the be all, end all authority, but we are. We have to be our own advocates with treatment and if you don't feel comfortable waiting that long (if that's how long it takes), then you shouldn't have to. Ultimately you are paying them for a service and they should do what you ask. But you already know that. :) Let us know how things go, but I sincerely hope that you don't have to go back for more treatments.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on the end of summer school!!! I'm so proud of you for deciding to talk to your RE - look at you being strong and standing up for yourself!!!
ReplyDeleteHave fun at the marshmallow roast - that sounds like a lot of fun!
You must be so excited about the end of summer school, congratulations! It's great that you have some plans to get away this weekend, hope you have a great time. I think you're right on about being your own advocate. IMO if you like another doc in the practice make the jump. After a loss anyone will understand that just making a change makes you feel better. She'll get it and it won't be the first time she lost a patient to another person in the practice, people do that all the time. GL!
ReplyDeleteYay for some time off! Enjoy!!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure afte you talk to your RE she'll see where your coming from. Lots of luck!